Life Coach, Death Doula, Grief Relief, Grief Relief Retreats, NLP Trainer, Homeopath
MY STORY: Drowning in a capsized plane may have been easier than entering widowhood
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Up to this point, navigating the unknown waters of a plane crash, was the most significant challenge in my life, until it wasn’t. That would be the death of my spouse. Grief can crush the life out of us, and how can we be the same again. The answer is life is like a river, you can never enter the same river twice, but that doesn’t mean we have to suffer from the grief and trauma of loss.
But first let’s survive a plane crash. I know now that I have been the the “other side”, I believe from my experience that we are infinite beings. We never die…
Life can change on a dime… and then what do we do about it? Often we grieve.
Here is my story. It was a perfectly sunny day. You know the ones, bright, balmy, and filled with the adventures of a 27-year-old. Imagine my birds-eye view; sailing high above a patchwork of green fields stitched together by a snaked river that blended into the sea and framed on either side by snow capped mountains.
We had spent the afternoon dropping out of the sky. Then soaring upward again, Windows open breathing in fresh grass and the rush of wind through my hair.
As the sun began its descent, and we turned towards the airport, the pilots voice erupted above the engine roar. My gaze followed his outstretched arm, past his fingertips that pointed to the river far below. We had just enough sun for one last dip before we headed in.
So, without a care in the world, the plane tilted, and we pummeled towards the earth.
Then the plane contacted the water, and it flipped, catapulting hard and fast from nose to tail. As I saw him go under, my mind bellowed; take a breath! But as I opened my mouth to air, it filled with water.
My first thought, there would be no 911 call. My mind’s checklist: alone, upside down, total blackness, buoyancy up, gravity down, things bumping my body, the plane spinning, dragged itself along with the current. And lastly, I was trapped.
My feet hit the cabin floor hard, and I pushed. Trapped! Lifejacket straps dug into shoulders, tangled with the 3-point harness, holding me fast.
I opened my eyes to the gasoline filled water that seared them shut once again. My brain clocked, I swallowed the water, keep oxygen, Find the buckle! But inside my mind, was on countdown.
That tingling sensation through my extremities, weakening my abilities, and signaling a warning. Then the thought ran through my mind, I think I’m going to die.
Those thoughts, like striking a match, illuminated a movie of the life I had lived. As time seemed to pause, I am distracted by the billions of images from my birth to death.
And then the perspective changed, the images directing my attention downward, at this moment in time, I was floating somewhere above, the lone witness to my other self somewhere below. I could see quite clearly, myself suspended upside down inside this plane, long blond hair flowing wildly in the water.
Yes, I felt strangely unattached to the pain and disconnected from the drama. I felt only calm, serenity in fact, and a deep feeling of unconditional love. I was flooded in bright light, that shone a flashlight on the darkened destiny below.
And then the movie moved beyond my life… gifting me a preview of what would happen, if I was to die: And that changed everything I knew to be true.
I no longer fear my own death, I had been to the other side, rather than feeling trauma, I leaned into gratitude… I was so grateful to be alive. But that did not bring comfort for the next most significant life experience.
That would be, the death of my spouse.
In a mere 9 months, I witnessed his emotional strength expand while his physical body shrank into itself, eventually, becoming so weak he could barely carry his weight. And then….. he died….
I was exhausted and deeply traumatized… The first thing I recall, at a soul level, is that forever, is a very long time. I don’t think I grasped reality because it felt so surreal. What was too real was that I felt desolate, alone in our dream home, and minus the dream.
It took effort to get out of bed, my energy limp. My heart ached that I thought I wouldn’t survive the pain, but one day rolled into the next and the pain kept getting worse.
Once the shock of disbelief ended, the trauma of his death remained, The confusion, difficult decisions, uncertainty of the future, sobbing, the endless amount of time remained.
I needed to do something to help myself, but where could I go? I found there wasn;t much help out there. So became my own best client, I did the work and it helped my mind and body, but it didn’t help my soul.
I belief that grief impacts all levels of our being, body, mind and soul… I needed more. My soul felt broken.
I felt drawn to his presence, but I didn’t know how to reach through the veil. When I survived the plane crash, I had a near death experience. I knew there was something more, but that experience never gave me insight into reaching across now.
I began to feel quite desperate. By the third morning I began begged the heavens for a sign. My face and arms upturned to the heavens and pleading with him or God, to send me a sign.
It was then a ringing sound pierced the air. As I held the cool receiver to my ear, a stranger’s voice came through that said; “your chickens are here.”
And so, maybe it as a sign? It would be a couple months before I reached out for a spiritual reading.
The first thing out of her mouth? “I see feathers everywhere.” She seemed confused and asked me if I had been finding feathers, collecting feathers, she said there were so many feathers, and she also said, Willis wants you to know, he is validating the feathers. This is real, and he is too. I cried… I felt deep relief, he was OK and I was going to be ok too
But I still hurt. What tools did I have to not just ease the pain, but to heal myself, make myself whole again… I expanded my knowledge and that expanded my mind. I found a engaged in a body, mind and soul system of recovery.
This holistic approach to healing opened my heart, healed my soul and I feel happy once again.
And now I offer my system to others who hurt. I make the choice everyday, to place my feet on the ground and reach out to help others.
My intention, to be of service, to let people know that we were never meant to live in emotional pain. That there is a way to heal, to feel comfort, remain positive and calm, help is here.
It does take the doing, acceptance and willingness to rise, it doesn’t have to be hard.
Understanding that we are creatures of habit, but intentional habit creation is essential when change is happening. They say to hold onto something ROCK SOLID, when going through change. I can be your rock.
I found the soul, in body, mind and soul to be my strength. Spiritual rituals brought me into balance, calmed my inner world.
The science of NLP allowed for change without requiring conscious effort. NLP techniques; Neuro-Linguistics Programming was effective in releasing emotional and physical anxiety. This made me feel in control and I was able to talk about my loss without feeling devastated. Decisions about my future restored.
And, I remained steadfast in my resolve to stay in gratitude, so my focus is positive, and so I am tuned into the beautiful parts of life again.
And lastly, I consciously choose to lean into joy. To thrive, not just survive the most challenging and heartbreaking life experiences, and I hope that for you too.
Homeopathy is Mind Body Medicine
Homeopathy bridges the Mind and Body. Known as Mind Body Medicine. Homeopathy has been used for over 200 years. By more than 500 million people. Who choose Homeopathy. As their main form of health care.
As a homeopath. I ask a lot of questions. An intake generally take 90 minutes. Or longer. We believe it is the person that is ill. Not the part or label of a disease. I ask about mental, emotional states. What makes you feel better. Or makes you feel worse. Times of day a condition arises. Looking at your entire system. And how it is functioning. Eating and sleeping habits. Chronology of illnesses. And much more.
Then I analyze the material. This can take several more hours. Then a remedy is chosen. One known to be characteristically similar. To your personal symptoms. Personalized medicine. Treating your entire system. Holistically. Not treating the individual part. And by doing that. We can treat without causing potential side effects.
Here is an example of how Homeopathy works:
Homeopathy. Is based on Universal laws of nature. Most importantly. “Like cures like”. This fundamental universal law of nature. Means what a substance can cause. It can cure.
We have all watched commercials. Boasting the next. “Soon to be famous cure”. Followed by a very long list. Of side effects. This list is, the drug picture. Both primary and secondary drug symptoms.
Most of us have peeled an Onion. And noted that our eyes burn and water. Or maybe our nose runs continually. Sometimes we sneeze. This discharge may even burn the skin. Under our nose. Leaving it red. So consider. If you have a cold, flu or allergy. With these symptoms. You can employ a homeopathic remedy. Made from the Onion. Call Allium Cepa. To resolve your symptoms.
A correctly chosen remedy. Can neutralize your symptoms. In a safe and effective manner. Without the noted side effects. That many over the counter allergy medicines cause.
Homeopathy can be integrated. With western medicine. To strengthen the immune system. During recovery. From injury or surgery. Or assisting with Hospice. Or for many chronic illness. Homeopathy is a natural choice. For you and your families health care.
Is Homeopathy Safe?
Yes. Homeopathy is safe for the entire family. From infants to the aged. And approved by the FDA
How are remedies made?
Like all medicines. Remedies are made from many different kinds of substances. From plants, animal and minerals. Or from diseased tissue. Remedies can be either liquid or pellets. First a liquid remedy is made. At a Homeopathic pharmacy. The liquid. Then poured over small sugar pellets.
Quantum Physics and Epi-Genetics. Help define energetic remedies. Homeopathic remedies are highly refined. Considered energetic medicine. Making them very gentle. And this refined quality, makes them a stimulant. Rather than a suppressant.
In addition. Prescriptions are personalized. Takes in your entire well-being. Designed to strengthen your entire immune system. In a natural way. While balancing the hyper or hypo expression of your system.
Homeopathy works with your immune system. Supporting and balancing its’ response to to any illness. A natural holistic approach. That strengthens your overall immunity. By building immune function. So the body acquires anti-bodies. Naturally. Most naturally acquired anti-bodies. Give life long protection.
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