Category: Neuro-Linguistics Programming

A metaphor can open a doorway into your mind

A metaphor of a door can create happiness.

What does a metaphor about a door have to do with our Psyche? Psychology states that our subconscious mind understands and used metaphoric language. So when we want to change the inner workings of our subconscious mind. A metaphor can be an important part of the solution.

What is a metaphor?

Metaphor: Something that is not really true or realistic. Used to describe a circumstance. Has no relationship to time or space.

Example: “That nearly killed me! Really? Not really, only metaphorically. Or understanding a dream. A steep mountain may be a metaphor for a big challenge ahead! Can be both positive or negative.

What it is not: Literal.

Why use a door as a Metaphor?

Because a door has common well-known characteristics.

  • A door is hard
  • Closes off a room.
  • Provide a barrier
  • We can’t see through it, (but we could add a window)
  • Maybe we can hear/ but partially impairs communication
  • Feeling resistance when closed, yet swings open easily
  • Notice the difference. A small child trying to open a door. Or youself. Easy or hard.
  • Recognize when and where you feel locked out.
  • Open door policy/ closed door policy
  • In or out
  • A door may keep the room inside invisible, protected
  • Keeps our houses safe.
  • It can be the access to a beautiful space where anything is possible.

Doors can have multiple connotations. Fear or love. Which does it represent to you?

Why are metaphors used in Psychology?

Psychologists understand that the subconscious mind loves metaphors. Loves stories. Metaphors give us a inside feel to a story. The subconscious mind communicates differently from our conscious mind. It uses symbolism. The feelings that arise from the images. The feeling that a metaphor may also remind us of.

I am using a door as a metaphor to create a story. One to help us understand a bit about our mind.

In psychology, a door could represent something we do not want to look at. To something that may be hidden. Whatever it is, whether it is locked behind a door or not. It could still be interfering with your happiness.

It could be mental emotional trauma, emotional baggage or outdated beliefs. Then we can visualize certain doors inside our mind. Where something unpleasant can be locked behind. But it is still there…

Why does it become locked behind a door? Self preservation. Not wanting to deal with the emotional pain of an event.

So why it is there at all? If we don’t want to remember it? Because our brains must process every thought. Our brains must try to make sense of the thought. To understand it. Or at least try to. The thought must be analyzed for sensations, feelings and emotion. Connecting with other similar past emotions. Then it is categorized and filed. Into either our short or long term memory. Whether we want them there or not.

Why do these old negative memories still affect us today?

Each time we think of this negative experience. Or have a new experience that brings up a matching emotions. This memory is brought forward into our conscious mind. We have an opportunity!

SOLUTION: To change the pattern. When a memory has been brought forward, it becomes malleable. This is our opportunity to change it. But do we? Not usually.

What typically happens is we take the “low road”. “Reacting” out of context with the current situation. The result, we re-enforce the memory. Imagine “reacting” to be similar to paving an old dirt road. That memory, like the newly paved road becomes easier to travel.

If we think of our memory as a road map. The road map contains all the places we have traveled. Every time we think, feel or get reminded by something else, about a location, we recall that memory. Like taking a library book out of the bookshelf and looking at it. It is up close when it moves into our conscious mind.

Once it is in our conscious mind. We have an opportunity to work with it. Like a writer, who edits their book. rewriting passages to smooth them out, or changing them entirely. Altering the past in some way. But that is only when we choose to actively edit our memory.

If we don’t change it? We allow an unpleasant past memory to affect our present. By not changing the memory, we reinforce the negative experience. As you know now, similar to paving a road. The paving makes it easier to travel next time. The cool thing is, we were never meant to suffer from our past.

Every day we have an opportunity to take charge and create thoughts and memories to enhance our lives. Empower our dreams and stimulate happiness.

The first step is awareness

Then action.

Why does our brain create a road map?

Our conscious BIG brain is our slow but rational brain. It takes time to reach a conclusion. The subconscious brain is very fast. It can process thoughts in a nano second. So we can react quickly.

Within the subconscious. There is the Limbic Brain. It is our Limbic brains job to give today’s emotional experience a quick understanding. It does this by linking similar emotions and feelings of today’s experience with yesterdays experiences. Why? So our Limbic brain can make a quick decision. Together with the Reptilian brain; they decide if today’s experience safe or is it not.

The Limbic brain served a great purpose 2000 years ago, when danger lurked outside our cave.

The problem is, today’s world is so much more complex. The Limbic brain links similar emotions. But makes mistakes. 80% of the time, the “Limbic” brain is wrong. And we react like there is danger outside our cave.

Why does the Limbic Brain make mistakes?

Imagine a hurricane. It chaotic. Loud. Dangerous. Stressful.

Now consider a painful experience. Or a trauma. Both create stress. It doesn’t matter that one is a hurricane and the other a painful experience. The Limbic brain links memories of stress. Sending a signal to the Reptilian brain. And we react.

Why do we react when the memory is supposed to be in lock-down?

Locking our emotions behind a door simply means we are ignoring it. This act tells our brain not to find a solution. The truth is, we know that it is never truly locked away. We now understand that emotional distress can affect ones life for a life time. If we let it.

How do we see it in people’s lives? Addiction. Patterns of abuse or self-destructive behavior. There are all kinds of ways. For us to try to stop the pain. We “suppress it”, ” numb it, drink it away, dope it away, do anything to ignore it”. And in the end? All are futile attempts.

Many of us known the futility in our actions. The pain never goes away. Because the healing process has never been addressed. The trauma remains locked. Behind a door within our mind.

Let’s look at our metaphor in a broader sense.

Imagine we each have a house that is our mind. This house is always under renovation.

Take a peak at the house within your mind. Notice how many rooms there are. The rooms are filed with life experiences. You can feel the emotion attached to each room.

Take notice of the differences in each room. Ranges of tone and color, whispers, or music. Inhale the scent of each room. Each room feels unique.

Looking deeper. Into bright cheerful rooms. Relaxed rooms with fresh air. Then there are other rooms. A small number we avoid. Dark stained doors.  Some with door knobs. Other where doors hang. Haphazardly from their hinges. A few nailed shut. But awful odors still ooze under the threshold.

These are the doors that feel ominous. We keep far away from these doors. Yet we can’t ignore them.

Facts are. The house is yours. You’ve built every room. Made the door. And know what is inside. So why are we so afraid?

What is this FEAR thing?

And then we realize. If we built this room. Put this door in. We CAN TEAR IT DOWN! We are actually in charge here. Not fear.

Why not leave it? Because living in fear is stress. It’s unhealthy.

The way we think about our house. About each room that we have built. Is a direct reflection of our mental, emotional and physical health.

If it is so bad for us, why can’t we just forget? It’s not about forgetting. (it’s coming) We wouldn’t have a very good mind if we could forget! Our minds are magnificent!

Olfactory example: Close your eyes and recall the delicious aroma of freshly baked chocolate chip cookies. (Did you just take a deep breathe through your nose?) Quite possibly we took a deep breathe in because our sense of smell engaged with the memory of freshly baked cookies and instantly opened this doorway in our mind. Our senses remember the smell and all the good memories that come with cookies! We instantly feel good.

If it is a pleasant experience. Like the smell of home baked goodies All is well.

So that explains how feelings of stress can instantly open doorways.

Stress is like a giant “key”. It unlocks almost every door where a stressful situation has been locked away. And when stress opens a door. Typically we react badly. Often greatly magnified. Disproportionate from our current experience.

Reactions can have devastating consequence in many situations.

Magnified reactions can result in a loss of a job Even end a relationship or a friendship. Our reactions often hurt us . Again and again.

So what’s the solutions?

Here are 3.

  1. Housekeeping services!

Clean up our house.

How? Lets consider a metaphor of housekeeping. Every week we take time to wash our cloths and change the linen on our bed. We vacuum, sweep and mow the lawn. What ever it takes to make our home feel cared for and loved. A clean house feels good.

So what’s so different about cleaning up our minds?

A little perception shift. Mental housekeeping needs normalizing. And as necessary as taking out the trash. Some jobs are easier than others, some require a renovation!

Removing trauma can be likened to remodeling a house. We can do a little renovation. One room at a time. Or take it back to the frame. Begin fresh!

We may want to protect and expand rooms. Ones full of pleasure. Make more room. By getting rid of the clutter. Some rooms may be removed all together.

In order to renovate, typically you need a plan.

A good plan and the right tools. If you’ve never renovated, maybe hire someone that knows what they are doing.

Some support helps. You direct, but someone takes the debris away or helps you build a new room.

With any renovations, whether it’s one room or the entire house. Sooner or later that door needs to be broken down, the walls removed, the carpet thrown out. Whatever it takes, but it needs to go.

De-construction complete! Construction begins. Consider changing the shape of the room all together.  Add a window or two that opens so natural light and fresh air can enter.

Plan how this renovated space can be redecorated. You alone get to chose how to decorate this room. How will it look? Can you see it now. Feel spacious and fresh?

Take a deep breathe in… and relax into this beautiful space you have created.

Still not sure? Not knowing where to start?

A journal is great. Make some notes. Take a look a the floor plan by walk through your own mental house. Look at all the angles.

Rise up in your mind and look at the house from above. Move around this house easily and naturally. Make it yours again. Own it!

When feelings come up, explore them by writing them down. Yelling them out. Saying these feelings out loud until the energy softens.

If it is too painful? 

2. Shift perspective. Psychology has ways to look at a painful life experience and still feel safe. At all stages, you must recognize that YOU are in charge.

Here are some tips.

  • Look from another persons perspective. Pretend you are your most trusted adviser.
  • Change the house to black and white.
  • Look at your house as if you’re watching a movie.
  • Or imagine yourself up on a high mountain looking down on your house.
  • Maybe you are inside a plane and flying overhead and take a quick look out the window.
  • Maybe there are clouds in the sky and so again the house is harder to see.

Looking through windows into rooms, or separated by distance allows painful experiences to be explored in a safe manner.

  • Awareness
    • Ask yourself, what door did I notice opened today?
    • When did it open?
    • What brought activity/ experience opened this old door?
    • What reaction was there?
    • Did it open as a limitation, a label, or something that encouraged me?
    • Or did this door represent freedom and opportunity?
  • Curiosity is another helper?
    • When your awareness piques your curiosity, encouraging exploration.
Explore the door: Exploration is another step towards releasing pain.

Look and feel the sensations that come into our body when we become aware of what is truly happening.

We can take moment to explore where and when this door came into existence by looking back in our life and notice when this room was built. How it was constructed. Why it needed a door then. Why we no longer need it.

3. Accept, Forgive and let go…

Does the door really exist?

No, it’s simply a metaphor to help us understand how we cope.

Real or imagined, if it is affecting our physical or mental emotional well being it is as solid as any door we can reach out and touch. Because doors interfere with our mental emotional and physical health.

How?

Negative emotions and stress create tension; resulting in a negative biological action within our bodies. So it’s not just a door! High levels of stress or chronic stress can feel as real as a brick that is tied to your leg when your deep at sea. Ever heard someone say; “I feel like I’m drowning”.

This is when bad things happen. It needs to be cut lose!

However, the door is not real. And when your truly ready to accept our situation for what it was. Then maybe you’ll be ready to forgive what happened. Benefit from the release of finally letting someone thing painful go.

Release can be likened to releasing a red balloon into the sky and watching it float away. Remember, the illusion of the door was simply an illusion. The door, like the string. Attached to the red balloon and held firmly in our grasp. It is not until we open our hand that the balloon is released.

And then we watch in amazement. The balloon effortlessly and easy drifts apart from us. Drifting on the invisible breeze until we can no longer see it.

After all, it never really existed.

Now you now know. That you have the power. And you have had the power all along.

So close your eyes and imagine. A life without all these doors. Life lived in freedom and liberation!

Stay well out there.

My name is Adele Anderson and you can reach me at Fulfillyourdestiny.ca. You can reach me for a free 30 minute consult: Adele@yourdestinycoach.ca

 

 

Swish Pattern for Excellence

Swish Pattern:

is an Neuro-Linguistics Programming that can assist in removing unwanted behavior and move you towards your desired outcome.

  • A: This technique is useful anytime you want to remove unwanted behavior or feelings and can transform it into a desired outcome.
  • In section one: We created a large empowered image of ourselves.
  • Close your eyes and recall this picture. I would like you to imagine this image again and then place this image of yourself, onto the cover of “TIME Magazine”
  • Make it as colorful as you can.
    • In your mind’s eye pick the magazine up. Smell the magazine, feel the cover, texture, weight and temperature of the magazine.
    • Listen to the sound as you turn the pages.
    • Listen to what your peers saying about seeing you on the cover?
    • What feelings do you have? Pride, accomplishment, gratitude.
    • Sear this picture of yourself on “TIME Magazine” into your mind in every detail. Congratulate yourself for this great achievement.

 

  • B: Now create a picture of yourself that includes the behavior you wish to remove. Place this picture onto a 5 by 7 piece of paper and put it into a picture frame. This is your “cue” picture. Store it in your mind.
  • C: Recall your “cue picture and visualize the picture frame of yourself on a table in front of you.
  • Reach over and take a black maker, place a large “dot” in the center of the picture.
  • This large “dot” is like a “shutter of a camera” and can open and close as you command.
  • Now bring forward, in your mind; your best self as shown on the cover of “TIME” and place the magazine on a stand behind the Cue picture.
  • Command the shutter to OPEN
  • Opening the shutter reveals your best self on the Time Magazine. You at your best.
  • Open your eyes
  • Repeat “C” 5 – 6 times. Each time you should end with the shutter open and you seeing your best self.
  • TEST:
    • Try to pull up; in your mind; the cue picture… it should be difficult.
    • Imagine your BEST self on the cover of Time. It should be easy and natural.

Visual Squash!

Visual Squash

This technique is great when one part of you wants to give up behavior that is interfering with your happiness, and another part of you is resistant to change. The part of our minds that resists changes,  finds comfort in this known behavior. IE: Emotional eating. Neur-Linguistics programming can offer you natural and easy tools that change behavior and lets your succeed at your weight loss goals.

  • I want you to put on music that relaxes you. Possibly the music that reminds you of a person you love or something you love to do.
  • Close your eyes
  • Imaging something or someone you truly love.
    • I want you to locate how this feels in your body.
    • The location, sensation or vibration, give it a color, sound, a shape
  • Now picture in your mind, exactly what you would like to change, the part of you that brought you to read this report and that part that really wants to reach the goal.
    • Get a clear vision of this in your mind.
    • Give it a shape, a color, a texture a sound, taste and a feeling. It’s the vision of yourself that only wants the best for you.
  • Now picture the part of yourself that keeps you from achieving your goal. The reasons may not be clear on a conscious level.
    • Give this part a different shape, color, texture, vibration, taste and feeling
    • You now recognize this is the part of you that holds you back.
    • Thanks this part for its efforts, it had good intentions; you may understand the reason why it held you back.
    • You ask this part of yourself to look at the behaviors and beliefs that are creating the inability to lose weight. These unintentional patterns were learned while growing up. For example: “Eat all your food, children are starving in Africa”.
    • You can explain to this part of yourself that your parent’s good intention is misplaced or misunderstood.
    • Invite this part to release these events as you are now ready to embark on a new journey and growing beyond this behavior.
    • In your minds’ eye: get these 2 parts to stand in front of each other and acknowledge each other.
    •  Visualize the energy between them; they seem energetically connected, almost magnetized.
    • With this realization, both parts understand that they are not losing anything, but gaining as they will be stronger by fusing together.
    • They start to communicate, blending the very best of themselves together, integrating, blending and gaining the best qualities as those lacking in one as present in the other.
    • They begin to magnetize together at their own speed, assimilating the positive changes and then the two images join and form a single image. The old images dissolve into one more powerful form that has the positive skills and attributes of the old.
    • The new form is very capable of accomplishing all the important goals of your future.
    • Now take your time and integrate the new part into your present self.
    • Now go back and bring back your fully embodied LOVE form.
      • You can see that there is a special place opening up within your “love” zone.
      • This space that is open is being created in the same shape, color, sound, vibration as the new part that you have created. They understand that they will fit perfectly.
    • Imagine the part finding it comfort and home within your place of love.
    • You can feel your energy grow as they reunite with you.
    • Take a few minutes to enjoy this feeling and quality.
    • Once you feel comfortable, think of places and times in the future where you want these integrated qualities and capacities to empower you.
    • You know they will be at your disposal whenever you need them.

New Behavior Generator

New Behavior Generator: 

when we want to change our behavior and willpower fails, we engage the subconscious mind and change the patterns that are limiting our success. This is a Neuro-Linguistics process that can empower change in your behavior!

  • Close your eyes and visualize a person you know that has achieved their weight loss goal.
  • Watch their behavior as is you are watching them in a movie.
    • Study their movements, how they hold themselves, confidence, language and actions.
  • Watch the movie a second time:
    • What are the nuances of their behavior, their action and conscious and unconscious strategies
    • Watch the movie again: watch their comfort level, breath patterns and eye movements. Watch their energy and aura.
    • This time when you watch the movie, breathe in rhythm and make the same eye movements and as you are watching them, take an imaginary scissors and cut that person out of the movie and put yourself into the picture.
    • Replay the movie again and envision yourself becoming comfortable in this movie, picking up the conscious and unconscious strategies, movements and aura.
    • Inhale deeply and step into the movie and feel how natural those skills and how comfortable they are to you
    • Now remember times and situations in the future where these skills will be required and that they will naturally emerge.
    • Open your eyes

Grey Matters Neuro-Linguistics Programming is Masterminding

I have been thinking about Masterminding my Grey Matter, because Grey matters.

  • Before I realized that my brain had an infinite capacity.
  • Before I learned that I had limited willpower, whenever I was tired, lonely, frustrated, hungry and angry.
  • Before I knew what I know now…..
    • I relied on a sleep aide when over tired
    • Wine to ease my stress
    • Procrastination when I was unsure of myself
    • Felt Anger when under pressure
    • and thought I could rely on my willpower to lose weight.

But now I know.

  • I don’t require the latest diet craze
  • I never needed a sleep aide
  • Stress doesn’t have to be the norm…
  • Why procrastinate when you can just do it! Do it now!

Because now I know how to access my sub-conscious grey matter, my mastermind is my super power!

Twenty years ago I discovered that Grey matters within my sub-conscious mind was a super power. During a near death experience of crashing in a float plane, while I struggled to survive without air, direction or experience, my sub-conscious mind exploded with super natural powers I never knew existed. Through this experience, I became aware of the master within the mind. It was a life altering experience.

I survived to tell the tale of that incredible experience, but I also understood that I didn’t know how to access my mastermind anytime I wanted to. And that knowledge set the course of me having a tremendous desire to learn all about psychology.

I became a Homeopath, studying mind body connections. Probed into different aspects of psychology, but, it wasn’t until I became a N.L.P. trainer and hypnotherapist that I truly realized I had discovered the Holy Grail, the secret of Masterminding Grey Matter.

With Neuro-Linguistics programming I learned to access my subconscious mind, had the ability to read peoples strategies, how their brain processed decision making, how to communicate with anyone and get the information I needed to help them, and to have the ability to make positive changes in my life and the lives of my clients.

Now I know, the mastermind understands that Grey Matter doesn’t really separate reality from fantasy. Each of us has experienced the truth in this. How? Our subconscious mind learns and finds reality through metaphors. Or a story of a friends life experience. Even watching a scary movie. Listen to what your body and mind does. Did your heart rate go up? Hair raise on the back of your neck? Experience fear, happiness, empathy?

When someone gets hurt, even on T.V., do you cringe? Actually say OUCH? Because you could feel their pain?

Ever have your mouth water when you smell an apple pie on a cooking show?

These are simple examples in everyday life. Proving we can experience an emotion, through witnessing it in another person, an actor, animation or an animal. Experiences become real based on our sensory experience. What we see, hear, smell, taste and feel. Our brain believes something is real whether it is real or not.

Now that we are aware of that fact, Neuro-Linguistic Programming uses it to YOUR advantage. Fact!

  1. If someone wants to quit smoking, why not “trick” the brain into thinking they already quit….
  2. If someone wants to be a better athlete, why not experience the strengths and attributes of a star athlete and make it your own?
  3. If someone is not fun, why can we not change our impression of it, and make it fun?
  4. If someone overeats and cannot lose weight, why not mastermind the brain to make a different choice?
  5. What if your job requires one to speak in public and they have a tremendous fear

Fact: Each of these scenarios is possible. Brain science has already proven it. We can Mastermind Grey Matter, easily and naturally, without drugs, diets, stress struggle or pain.

Now Masterminding Grey Matters is readily available. To anyone that is looking for change. These natural scientifically proven methods of accessing the subconscious mind now. Useful for overcoming fear, building confidence, changing behavior, and performance.

learn more at yes@lifecoachadele.com Until we speak in person, discover in yourself when, fantasy feels real.

Unlearning regaining personal Power

I love this idea of “unlearning”.

Unlearning could be considered the conscious and subconscious release of old beliefs, outdated beliefs, emotional baggage, or releasing the pain of trauma that no longer serves us. By unlearning we can regain our personal power.

If your psyche accepts the vision of “unlearning” easier than “letting go”… then consciously chose unlearning all the things that you think about yourself; that either drags you down, makes you doubt yourself or that doesn’t serve your best and most powerful self.

We will separate all the “no longer true” from the “true” and change how we feel about ourselves and our future.

If you would like to experience of unlearning and letting go, a new reality then play along.

After you read the plan, then insert your own truths, what you would like to unlearn and what is “no longer true” into your personal story.

You can do this by closing your eyes and picking a location in your mind where you will lovingly place all the things that you “are”, that you know definitively to be true. I am a sister, a loving daughter, a compassionate woman, a passionate NLP trainer.

I visualize each truth as a warm glowing orb. Each one has a bit of a different color, some glow red, others a soft blue. They resonate, a slight soft tone, a noticeable vibration.

I reach out to other areas of my mind; I select one truth at a time; in my minds’ eye. I feel the weight of it, the slight vibration and tone that emanates from each truth. I place each one of my truths into my hands and roll them around, looking at them from every angle as I carry it carefully to my “truth box”. I witness myself easily walking through the corridors of my mind and naturally finding the room in my mind where my truth box is.

I walk over to my Truth box, I can’t wait to look inside, I feel my excitement. I can now see inside my truth box and as I let my gaze pass around the interior, it expands and becomes a huge magnificent room. I can walk inside here.

As I enter this room in my mind, I become aware how vast this room in my mind is, it feels unlimited expansive, each time I place my truths into it, the air seems to glows and the room expands a little more.  I can tell it is unlimitied.

I can actually feel the love in this room, it is, I understand my love for myself. The room itself glows with all my truth and potential. I feel at peace and excited at the same time, I feel the rooms’ powerful magnetic pull and I realize that I can easily walk around inside this room and visit all the beautiful truths that reside here.

I become aware that it is like the most magnificent library I have ever seen. Shelves line the walls and fill the space; there are already so many things already in there, things that I had somehow forgotten, like all the wonderful things I have already learned, accomplishments, great memories of my past, and milestones from years gone past.

Just being in here in my truth makes me feel powerful, I feel so proud of my truths and take a deep easy breathe feeling my chest expand and relax. It feels like home.

I continue to bring truths into my room and notice the space expands and glows brighter with each item I add. I also notice that each time I place a truth in my box, I hear the song a beautiful little bird singing, I feel the warmth of my love for all these things that are me. I breathe in the sweet smell that permeates the space and feel my body relax. I feel most relaxed and at ease.

I start to feel the unlimited nature of myself. I decide I will add more, because I can and I am these things that I have forgotten. Adding courage, resilience, power, compassion, passion, and as I continue to add more, I am I expanding myself. Adding more.. I am a constant learner, excited about the future +++, and I now I can feel it, I can breathe in all my truths.

I take a few minutes to wonder through the room, reach out as I pass each of my truths. I notice each time I reach towards my truth, they begin to glow a brilliant warm light, they seem to illuminate, vibrate and I hear them almost like they are singing with joy. I feel their warmth, the lightest touch to my face, my body and my heart. And now, because I have experienced my truths again, I feel at peace, powerful, safe and ready to unlearn the things that I will leave behind.

But as I leave this room for a short time, I will always remember where this room is and that I can visit it anytime I want. It is my personal room, built all for me and I am welcome anytime. I also keep this room open and promise myself to keep adding truths and to use this room as my safe haven.

Now it is time to create another box, in a different location in my mind. This box will represent the things that I no longer am.

I notice as I construct this box that it feels uncomfortable here, it’s darker, the light doesn’t reflect with me, It feels separate from myself.

I feel a bit of a knot in my stomach, anxiety, self-doubt… will I make the box right, can I do this? I definitely don’t like it here, my chest feel tight, I feel my palms are hot and sweat a little. It’s damp and musty and cobwebs cling to the corners of this box. Dark things seem to lurk at the edges watching me, judging my progress. It feels a bit sticky around the box and smells more sour than musky.

I will do this quickly, my truths are lighting the way. My truths have told me and I have the inner strength to unlearn all this garbage that I have picked up along life’s road. I am ready… I can go to my Truth room; in my mind, whenever I need their strength.

I have decided. I am going to fill this big black box with all the things that are no longer true or things that I need to unlearn. Afterwards, I will naturally and effortlessly walk away from this place.

The first thing I notice is how easy it is to drop all that is heavy, sad, painful and unhappy. It is time; I may have realized that for a long time. I know now that they really have no life of their own… so I happily drop them into the box.

I realize now that untruths cannot animate without my power. Untruths are dead weight, lifeless nothingness. With this new awareness I know I will never give an untruth life again.

In my mind, I quickly gather all the untrue things together, some are just old clutter, others limp lifeless, sticky smelly perceptions of has never been true.

Easy… I no longer drive a Jeep, clunk… it hits the bottom of the box. I no longer live in Vancouver, clunk… a spa owner … clunk, faster now, own a horse.

Deeper; fear of flying, overweight, I peek over the edge and watch them drop into the abyss of the box.

I notice that each lifeless untruth seems to disappear into a bottomless black hole, disappearing beyond my awareness. I seem to forget them as soon as they drop in.

This is empowering, I grab several untruths, the ones that seems tough,

  • self-doubt
  • indecision

.. and this time I throw them deep into the bottom of the box, I smile as I hear them dropping into the pit. They disappear in blackness into the nothingness and now, I realize that is their nature. ..

Untruths are not tough, they are “UN”, they are do not exist, powerless, lifeless …

….this is starting to feel good, I continue getting rid of the crap that holds me back, the untruths that I need to unlearn. Here I go…

  • Gaining Wealth is difficult… Done.
  • I don’t deserve… swoosh I throw it harder. Gone.
  • I’m not good enough. Gone.
  • I’m not pretty enough. Gone.
  • I am not thin enough. Gone.

All of my untruths effortlessly falling into the black abyss of the box…at times I hear them crash against the walls. I listen as they loudly explode into smithereens somewhere beyond my vision.. More…

I hear fears’ painful cry as its’ fiery red ball implodes into nothingness.

I am charged now! I am really feeling smooth texture of empowerment.

I realize I have more power, more options, and I begin to see the fog clear, a new greater perception is beginning to appear.

Now that I am aware of my power and I see the limited lifeless nature of my untruths, they instantly begin to be sucked into the black box… all by themselves. It takes none of my effort, it’s effortless.

As this happens, I feel my body and mind are naturally feeling lighter, the weight of fatigue lifts, self-criticism disappears, and self-doubt tries to grad my arm but get sucked away. I watch them magnetically being sucked through the corridors of my mind, quickly vanishing into the box and beyond nothingness.

My untruths are pulled by themselves now, effortlessly. I just have to notice them, as simple as that. They all appear to have a certain polarity, seem unstable, a bit of a wobble and kind of stick together. It seems to be their nature.

As I continue to search for the more hidden untruths, the ones that haven’t left yet, I realize when I find them that they are becoming more unstable and maybe a bit transparent, they are losing their shape, I can’t make out what I used to think they were. Without my power, they lose their form, become nothing.

I notice how easy it is now, by simply bringing my attention to any untruth, they get sucked into the abyss.

I notice now, I no longer feel uncomfortable here, this is also my place of power, the room has become brighter, the floor stable and smooth. The air is clearer. My stomach feels relaxed, hungry for more truth and my shoulder strong and square. My mind feels clear and I can hear the sound of music and laughter from happy memories. I know my truth is much stronger now and it is starting to fill up many of the rooms in my mind.

I start to feel my excitement, uplifted, lighter, and I taste my freedom. My mind feels expansive, open and receptive to new ideas. I hear the un-limitedness in my thinking now, am visualizing opportunities beyond where I was allowing myself to notice before. But now I see them, waiting there for me, natural unlimited opportunities.

I feel confident in ridding myself from untruths, like a detective I easily find them, how quickly I can make this happen!

I understand that at times, a new untruth may enter my mind, but now I have the awareness that they have no power of their own, and I naturally repel them, they cannot stay here.

This knowledge is my truth! All of a sudden start to see my untruth box begin to implode. It is sucking any and all untruths from my mind, dissolving them back into nothingness.

I lean inward and notice now, there is just a big black hole left in the place where the untruth box was and it has a powerful pull. It has my power, the power of my truth energizing it.

I hear cheering, rise out of my truths. As the last of the untruth turns to nothingness, my see my truth room glow brighter, stronger and their energy empowers me.

I realize now that my truth is my shield, my true self! I feel the warm glow everywhere, permeating every cell, flushing through my bones, muscles, tendons; my truth runs in my blood, it is a natural part of me. I feel my truth expand, its strength flow all around me, a powerful shield, protecting me, repelling untruths.

I will decide right now that whenever I feel that uncomfortable pull of an untruth, all I have to do, is lightly bring attention to it and it will be sucked into the black hole, sucked naturally and easily into the black hole and into nothingness.

I have the power; it is MY mind after all!

I have a choice and I chose personal power.

With my new awareness, I briefly visit my TRUTH room, and take a deep breath and know and feel grateful for all my truth. It really is what sets me free.

Now, I realize that I can take this knowledge into the future and move beyond any untruth that may have been holding me back.

I know without a doubt that I will continue to nurture and grow my truths and I relax in this knowledge.

 

Now… Just take a moment to accept this too as my truth….

 

Lots of love

Adele

Big 8 of Goal Setting

Goal setting and the Big 8.

When you’re looking at upping your game and you need to set some new goals then consider that working with your meta models with take you much further faster and reduce your change of quitting or failing altogether.

So what exactly is a Meta Model. Well it the way your brain processes information, which can be changed through cognitive behavioral work or through a method that take none of your willpower, NLP or Neuro-Linguistic Programming.

But back to Meta Models, There are 8 general categories and I will tell you the overall picture first and then get into the details.

Generally we all use our personal meta model to communicate and process our reaction to any experience, and  the actions and behaviors we take to do things every day is the filters of our brain. There are 8 factors.

So what are the eight factors, as we learn about them, you will quickly identify which ones are your personal filters and those of the people around you. Some people use a combination of each pair, but you will notice the weight is on one side more than the other.

The BIG 8:

The top 2 are:

Towards or Away: Meaning are you moving away from a one thing or are you moving towards something. “Away” typically has a fear element engaged? If you’re in “sales” these are handy tools.

Example 1: Is the person wanting to buy a car because their current car is unsafe, or are they feeling like they deserve to buy a car? If you know which one, you can use it to your advantage and “sell more cars”!

Example 2: As real-estate people you need to know are they looking for a safer neighborhood, a place their child can walk safety to school. Or, do they want a better neighborhood for the illusion of affluence? If you know this you can update your sales pitch and alter the course of events.

  • I am overweight and worry about heart disease so I better lose weight. Fear is “moving away”
  • I want to be healthy so I am going to quit smoking. This person is moving towards a better choice.

Internal/ External: Did you feel it or did someone tell you? What does that mean? A quick way to find our which way your brain functions is to understand your frame of reference filter.

  • My boss told me I did a good job (external) It came from an outside source. Do they need the re-enforced value of someone else opinion?
  • I know I did a good job, no one had to tell me anything, I just know. (Internal)

So if you’re selling to an “external person” listen for the clues, do they need to tell them; “you’re making a good choice”

  • Or do you say, “I don’t have to tell you, I can see you’re making the best choice for your situation.”

If you’re in sales… and by the way… we all are, whether we are in sales or a leadership role, a Mother or a small Business person. Whatever you “do” Meta Models are being used and you can benefit from knowing about them.

Here are the next 2 biggies.

Matching/ Mis-matching: Listen for the language that your client uses. Are they comparing the similarities between cars/ brands are or they talking about the differences? How do you process things. Remember that many good sales people use these techniques and if you’re savvy you can make a better deal.

When you’re in sales, you want to be talking the “same Language as your client. Why? Because it builds rapport, and people are more likely to buy something from you if they think, you think the same way. Your client will feel you understand what is important to them and looking out for their best interests.

So if they are buying a car and talk about safety, listen to how they are talking about it. Are they asking you the differences between models or are they saying, “What other models have this feature?” Bingo!

Once/ Several times: I am a “one time” person, so I can get frustrated with my “several-times thinker” husband. He takes his “several-times route rather than taking someone’s word, he wants to read what other people have said, talk to a few people. I used to think he was the devil’s advocate, but now I understand that he is a several times thinker and needs to go through his personal process.

  • One times thinkers act faster and may take your wisdom easier than a several-times thinker
  • For several-times thinkers: You’ll need to have some articles close at hand, a binder that shows several different articles about the subject at hand. Maybe a famous person’s name that likes this too. You will need to offer a variety of sources to get a several-times person buying from you.

So that’s half, the others are important too, so before I have the “General thinkers” so don’t “qlick off”!

I will cover General next! Is that you? Feeling like it’s just too much info? Haha! You’re a “general thinker”… a “big-picture” kind of person. You’re the planner, give the overview but leave the details to the “bean-counters”

  • General thinkers, just want the overview, so don’t bore them and lose them to your details. A couple big key points and that’s all their brain is looking for. If they want more “detail” they will ask you. If it’s a BIG truck, then stick to big trucks and don’t slow them down with a lot of unwanted details.
  • BUT if you’re a specific thinker: You’re the strategist. You want to know how that will be done, what it will cost, how much interest, when will the payment be due. Maybe you’ll want the warranty and the details of that. If they are buying something from you they may be reading the label, the small print. They can get bogged down with the details at time but they always finish the job.

Contemplative or Action-Oriented: are you a “doer” or are you a “thinker”. How long does it take you to make your decisions?

  • Some people like to have all their ducks in a row, others go by the seat of their pants, confident that they can catch-up on the fly. Which one are you?

In-time/ Through time:

  • Spontaneous people are “in-time” They live in the moment, not too much planning. It about what is happening NOW! There is less stress for in-time people because yesterday is gone and tomorrow is only a dream.
  • Through-time people look at the whole picture, they see where they are at today and what has to happen tomorrow, next week and a year from now.

Independent/ Team Player: People can be both depending upon the circumstance. If they feel comfortable with the level of knowledge that someone else has to lead with, then they can be a team player, but if they aren’t comfortable, then they will want to lead. Here are the differences.

  • Self-employed people are independent
  • A person that likes to work for others and doesn’t need to step into a leadership role

Now that you’re aware of the Meta model and realize the importance our internal filters play in our decision making, you can use them to your advantage. If you’re in sales, you can quickly use someone else’s Meta model to build rapport and make the sale now, or to build the relationship for future sales.

Using the Meta Model along with a person’s Representational System, you can skyrocket your personal, financial and career goals AND move beyond your current sales abilities naturally and easily. After you gain proficiency in the Meta Model and other Cognitive behavior, you will realize the untapped power of your mind. I call it your Super Power!

In summary, everyone communication and perception is influences by our Motivational Meta Programs, our Meta Model, Representational style. Being aware of these models moves us beyond what we currently think and the actions we carry out. Now you can gain these tools easily through NLP, and expand your success now. Before engaging the power of the Meta models, you would be limited in your success. I want you to realize and become aware of your personal unlimited mind power; your Super power is fun and easy to learn.

Learn your Motivational Meta Programs, the Big 8 Meta Model and Representational system and more. You can experience your Super Power NOW and reach your 2016 goals! And if your living in the moment… I can help you see your future “In-Time” today!

You can experience a FREE 30 minute consult with me by clicking on the below link.  https://lifecoachadele.com/fulfill-your-destiny-work-with-adele/

Are you moving towards or away from being an ex-smoker?

AS a NLP Master Practitioner, I ask my clients are you moving towards being an ex- smoker or are you leaving smoking behind. they go huh…:) I want to understand their “Meta Model”. So, then I ask why do you want to stop smoking, for health reasons, the odor, or are you doing it for your family?

Then I need to know how much research you have done? Have you read everything you can about it and know all the variables; because if you have you are a specific thinker and I need to know this. You will want the complete game plan.

Or are you a jump in a quite kind of person, you see the big picture but don’t really want to know all the inner working, just the end goal.

I am doing all this so I can understand the inner workings of YOUR mind…. so I can then reprogram your actions to a positive outcome of being a non-smoker.

There are other things I look for, representational systems, the types of words you chose to use. Are you visual or are you a kinesthetic thinker? I need to know.

Are you in-time or can you look ahead and already envision your non-smoker self. These are things that tell me how your brain processes information, I use this and much much more to trigger a new pattern of behavior, and it happens quite easily and naturally.

Then I can USE YOUR specific processing sequence to get the outcome YOU WANT.

This is pure psychology, willpower does not really come into play. I am “working the system” if you want to call it that.

I call this “smart” quitting rather than “struggle and willpower” quitting.

…And then I elicit the state of YOU as a non-smoker. I trick your subconscious mind into believing that you have already quit….hmmmm YUP!

This is the short version and you don’t have to know it all, unless your a specific thinker, then I can give you the step by step game plan. Yes there is a psychology behind quitting smoking and I can help. Or read more about me by booking a FREE 30 minute complimentary question period. https://lifecoachadele.com/fulfill-your-destiny-work-with-adele/