Learn How Filters Narrow Conversational Information
When our predetermined conception of the world become our norm and creates a selective memory. We tend to filter towards what we do like, and filter out what we don’t.
Think of like making a perfect cup of tea. It personalized. But also think that maybe everyone has their perfect cup of tea. And they are all different. But this cup of tea, filters our much of what the world is. All the different reali”teas” are filtered out. So imaging trying out a new cup of eta. One you have never tried before. What would your world sound like? WHY? because you child is drinking their own tea…. and mis-communicating.
Understand that a child is figuring out their world. Think of the firdst time they figured out how to turn on a light switch. Now their brain can use this information for the next time they enter a dark room, they natural reach inside and feel the wall to find the switch. Our mind is like that, using previously learned information and applying it to a future task. So like building a sandwich certain things are already pre-loaded. The problem with this is that there are times when information is no longer useful.
Life can be more complex than simply turning on a light switch. So, let’s think about it a little bit differently. Consider the mind uses previously learned information, like a road-map that we may use to navigating. and they are following the map on the road to somewhere… but it is based on an interpretation or assumption from earlier times, and filtered through beliefs and experiences. And understanding that our kids have fewer experiences, so gthe information they base their decisions on, is also limited to their life experiences. Less cause and effect experience, making them more likely to take more risks because they have been “burned” fewer times.
How can we help them make better decisions? By using a communication tool called a feedback sandwich
Loops in connection to empowerment. Whenever we ask ourselves a question. We run through a variety of filters, inside our mind. Based on experiences, beliefs systems, self esteem, environment and emotions.
In our children, we notice that their natural stage of psychological evolution is in full play. Defining their experience, understanding how every experience is building either empowering or self limiting beliefs. What is working and what is not? Answers can be found in the loops we witness in their behavior.
Look into your childs eyes as you ask them wuestions and you can see their mind shifting through these processes.
Empowering our communication through NLP. How do we effectively communicate? I’ve noticed when we create an environment conducive to sharing, conversation naturally and easily happen.
I also notice and you may also find it curious that we tend to speak differently to different ages; young and old. When people speak a different language we may notice we speak louder.
How can we truly empower our ability to communicate? NLP provides us with strategies. In all things safety is necessary. Safety creates the environment where all people of all race, culture and age can share ideas.
In ourselves and creating them in our children. Being the parent and mentor to our child. Why? Because they are mimicking us. And they can only be broken through consistent attention towards our emotional mastery.
NLP is a tool that is known for the ability to change behavior, motivate and to install the excellence of others. The first key to change is the awareness that change is needed.
There may be as many parenting styles as leadership. Where are they similar and how can we better understand styles, to communicate and build better relationships with our kids. NLP gives us some answers that lead the way
When we have an image of anchoring, maybe it is attached to a boat. Creating a connection to a safe haven. But anchoring can be religious symbols, a place, sound, memories and more.
In NLP, anchoring is directed. Choosing a place on the body to link a certain emotion inside the mind, so it can be recalled at will.
NLP also associates unwanted behaviors, memories and emotion to a dedicated “anchor” and then through a NLP process, shifts the associated meaning towards a high performance or positive state, then re-anchoring.