Happiness tip 3 Know the difference between failure and choosing.
Why do so many have difficulty choosing. Well, it could be that choosing is associated with the possibility of failure. And so, choose nothing.
What is choice? An option, or a possible course of action
What is failure? Lack of success or feelings of non-fulfillment.
Why is choice so important?
It moves us. Takes us towards a possible action that creates something we want. Choice is forward momentum, towards success or through failures that arise.
So why do so many have difficulty choosing?
Failure and choosing may sound different but have quite a few similarities.
Both stop many from proceeding. Inside the mind the feelings are similar. A fear of failure and a fear of making the wrong choice, feel the same. Because they both share the emotion, fear.
Why is that important? It creates a pattern of behavior. In many people, the resulting pattern is stagnation. Doing nothing, or not taking the leap at all.
And it is OK to have your ducks in a row, but perfection is often overrated. I consider it a dream breaker actually.
WHY? Because I hardly ever hear someone say to me, it’s perfect in every way. No need to improve. It’s absolutely perfect.
Also, perfect is often used as a “future” word.
When it is ever perfect? Maybe there are perfect moments, but our brains don’t work that way. We are constantly searching for ways to improve. Improvement, creativity, invention are all natural phenomena’s of our brain.
But when perfect stops us is the ruminating thought, once I make it perfect. Or when I do this, or when this happens it will be perfect. And so perfect often stops us from taking the action that we need to make DREAMS HAPPEN.
It’s a lot of worrying about things that haven’t happened. So what’s there to worry about? Keep it simple, have faith and take the leap.
If you fall down, think back a few years to when you learned to walk…
How many times do you think you fell? 1000’s maybe even 10s of thousands. But did that stop you? No! Did you not just keep getting up? Until you learned to RUN!
History says that success is built on failures.
And failure is another word for try it a different way. So if your there, right now, lying in the dirt, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and get back in the game.
Choice is where dreams are made. So dream big and take the leap.
Or if something is still stopping you from going after your dreams, take a deep breathe, and give me a call, I’ll promise to catch you if you fall. xoxoxA