Tag: neuro-linguistic programing

Happiness tip 1. Journaling can bring you closer to happiness

 

Happiness tip 1

Is something dominating your thoughts today? Try journaling.

It’s not uncommon for us to unconsciously lock ourselves into a loop of unhappiness.

What is a dominating thought?

It could be called ruminating, worry or negativity. And it’s not a good thing. Whenever we are worried or stressed about anything.  The process creates the same internal state as any negative emotion.

Therefore ruminating is considered a negative emotional state. A middle brain process where negative emotions initiate stress chemicals and hormones to flush through our body and brain; creating the physical sensation of worry and stress.

Why is that important to understand?

In limbic brains’ search for a solution to our discomfort, it scans through millions of memories, for a pattern of behavior that was used in the past, to make this emotional state feel better.

Unfortunately the Limbic brains interpretation of today’s event does not have to be correct. It is simply identifying similarities in emotional patterns.

Here’s an example: Did you ever watch Sesame street? Big Bird and 4 pictures would come onto the TV screen and we were asked to identify similarities or differences.

Which if these things is not like the other. Which of these things doesn’t belong. Well the limbic brains search only reveals the similarity of emotions. How we felt about something. But the truth is, it doesn’t have to be anything like today’s situation. And it doesn’t mean that it was productive. In fact, it only means that your minds attempt to make yourself feel better followed a certain routine.

Why does it matter?

Because just maybe that was eating ice-cream! And you are trying to lose weight. Or any habit. Smoking or taking a drink… It could be almost any addiction. Or it could be anger, unhappiness.

Why does this happen?

These are embedded patterns of behavior deep within the mind. Consider it automated unconscious patterns. A sequence of behavior initiated by our brain meant to temporarily soothe these feelings of discontent, anger, frustration.

What happens next? We often notice that not too much later, the feelings of discontent return. Maybe rumination interrupts a good night’s sleep. You may notice yourself having a quick temper, or procrastination as the emotion rises to the surface again, possibly even accelerating the emotion.

What is even worse?

All result in limiting our ability to make good decisions, to be creative or productive. And even more important, it could interfere with your ability to feel happy.

So what is one solution to help return your sense of self and get you on the road and back to happy?

Journaling; but it must be done in a very specific way.

And I hear you say, why journaling? Sounds way too simple? Or maybe your thought is that it would be time consuming?

But how is journaling part of the solution?

Well a few things happen when you journal. It requires your brain to think. Meaning that journaling takes you out of an emotional state. Emotional processes take place within the Limbic brain. This immediately shifts your brain. By completing a task of journaling, you enter a cognitive function. Writing is cognitive process of the Neo-Cortex. Meaning you are no longer in the Limbic brain and that makes all the difference.

It’s like shifting the gears of your car. When you’re in first gear, you’re not in second. And so on.

You see, the Neo-Cortex is where you think, have the ability to rationalize, analyze and be creative.

About how does that help you? You have removed your focus on emotion, therefore lessoning the focus within the emotional limbic brain.

By giving the Neo-cortex a simple action, you have changed the brains.

How? First by identifying the emotion you are feeling. Secondly, writing the identified emotion into your journal. Writing, spelling and organizing our thoughts all require the neo-cortex to process. Thus our emotions lesson, because we are not in a limbic brain process.

How? Imagine a brain to be like a room in your house. When you are in the room, a light is on. When you leave that room, you turn off the light. Entering a different room, you turn on that light.

When the light is on, that is the brain in use.

How can we even understand ourselves at a deeper level?

Identifying not only why; but when; we feel a certain way. When have you felt this way in the past? Are your current feelings related to an old memory, an old event?

If the emotion was the same as an old event, the memory was triggered. When this happens, that emotion is brought forward in your mind. Like taking a book off the book shelf and looking at it. Even though the event can be different, it is your emotion that was the same or similar in some way.

How can you recognize this? Your reaction was swift.

And how can we stop this from happening? Awareness is a beginning of letting the emotion go. By first bringing the emotion forward, it becomes malleable. This is where the deep thinking process begins.

I can take you there, but if you’re still not ready…. Begin to journal. It is a happiness builder. Happiness tip 1: is journaling.

Swish Pattern for Excellence

Swish Pattern:

is an Neuro-Linguistics Programming that can assist in removing unwanted behavior and move you towards your desired outcome.

  • A: This technique is useful anytime you want to remove unwanted behavior or feelings and can transform it into a desired outcome.
  • In section one: We created a large empowered image of ourselves.
  • Close your eyes and recall this picture. I would like you to imagine this image again and then place this image of yourself, onto the cover of “TIME Magazine”
  • Make it as colorful as you can.
    • In your mind’s eye pick the magazine up. Smell the magazine, feel the cover, texture, weight and temperature of the magazine.
    • Listen to the sound as you turn the pages.
    • Listen to what your peers saying about seeing you on the cover?
    • What feelings do you have? Pride, accomplishment, gratitude.
    • Sear this picture of yourself on “TIME Magazine” into your mind in every detail. Congratulate yourself for this great achievement.

 

  • B: Now create a picture of yourself that includes the behavior you wish to remove. Place this picture onto a 5 by 7 piece of paper and put it into a picture frame. This is your “cue” picture. Store it in your mind.
  • C: Recall your “cue picture and visualize the picture frame of yourself on a table in front of you.
  • Reach over and take a black maker, place a large “dot” in the center of the picture.
  • This large “dot” is like a “shutter of a camera” and can open and close as you command.
  • Now bring forward, in your mind; your best self as shown on the cover of “TIME” and place the magazine on a stand behind the Cue picture.
  • Command the shutter to OPEN
  • Opening the shutter reveals your best self on the Time Magazine. You at your best.
  • Open your eyes
  • Repeat “C” 5 – 6 times. Each time you should end with the shutter open and you seeing your best self.
  • TEST:
    • Try to pull up; in your mind; the cue picture… it should be difficult.
    • Imagine your BEST self on the cover of Time. It should be easy and natural.

Visual Squash!

Visual Squash

This technique is great when one part of you wants to give up behavior that is interfering with your happiness, and another part of you is resistant to change. The part of our minds that resists changes,  finds comfort in this known behavior. IE: Emotional eating. Neur-Linguistics programming can offer you natural and easy tools that change behavior and lets your succeed at your weight loss goals.

  • I want you to put on music that relaxes you. Possibly the music that reminds you of a person you love or something you love to do.
  • Close your eyes
  • Imaging something or someone you truly love.
    • I want you to locate how this feels in your body.
    • The location, sensation or vibration, give it a color, sound, a shape
  • Now picture in your mind, exactly what you would like to change, the part of you that brought you to read this report and that part that really wants to reach the goal.
    • Get a clear vision of this in your mind.
    • Give it a shape, a color, a texture a sound, taste and a feeling. It’s the vision of yourself that only wants the best for you.
  • Now picture the part of yourself that keeps you from achieving your goal. The reasons may not be clear on a conscious level.
    • Give this part a different shape, color, texture, vibration, taste and feeling
    • You now recognize this is the part of you that holds you back.
    • Thanks this part for its efforts, it had good intentions; you may understand the reason why it held you back.
    • You ask this part of yourself to look at the behaviors and beliefs that are creating the inability to lose weight. These unintentional patterns were learned while growing up. For example: “Eat all your food, children are starving in Africa”.
    • You can explain to this part of yourself that your parent’s good intention is misplaced or misunderstood.
    • Invite this part to release these events as you are now ready to embark on a new journey and growing beyond this behavior.
    • In your minds’ eye: get these 2 parts to stand in front of each other and acknowledge each other.
    •  Visualize the energy between them; they seem energetically connected, almost magnetized.
    • With this realization, both parts understand that they are not losing anything, but gaining as they will be stronger by fusing together.
    • They start to communicate, blending the very best of themselves together, integrating, blending and gaining the best qualities as those lacking in one as present in the other.
    • They begin to magnetize together at their own speed, assimilating the positive changes and then the two images join and form a single image. The old images dissolve into one more powerful form that has the positive skills and attributes of the old.
    • The new form is very capable of accomplishing all the important goals of your future.
    • Now take your time and integrate the new part into your present self.
    • Now go back and bring back your fully embodied LOVE form.
      • You can see that there is a special place opening up within your “love” zone.
      • This space that is open is being created in the same shape, color, sound, vibration as the new part that you have created. They understand that they will fit perfectly.
    • Imagine the part finding it comfort and home within your place of love.
    • You can feel your energy grow as they reunite with you.
    • Take a few minutes to enjoy this feeling and quality.
    • Once you feel comfortable, think of places and times in the future where you want these integrated qualities and capacities to empower you.
    • You know they will be at your disposal whenever you need them.

New Behavior Generator

New Behavior Generator: 

when we want to change our behavior and willpower fails, we engage the subconscious mind and change the patterns that are limiting our success. This is a Neuro-Linguistics process that can empower change in your behavior!

  • Close your eyes and visualize a person you know that has achieved their weight loss goal.
  • Watch their behavior as is you are watching them in a movie.
    • Study their movements, how they hold themselves, confidence, language and actions.
  • Watch the movie a second time:
    • What are the nuances of their behavior, their action and conscious and unconscious strategies
    • Watch the movie again: watch their comfort level, breath patterns and eye movements. Watch their energy and aura.
    • This time when you watch the movie, breathe in rhythm and make the same eye movements and as you are watching them, take an imaginary scissors and cut that person out of the movie and put yourself into the picture.
    • Replay the movie again and envision yourself becoming comfortable in this movie, picking up the conscious and unconscious strategies, movements and aura.
    • Inhale deeply and step into the movie and feel how natural those skills and how comfortable they are to you
    • Now remember times and situations in the future where these skills will be required and that they will naturally emerge.
    • Open your eyes

Grey Matters Neuro-Linguistics Programming is Masterminding

I have been thinking about Masterminding my Grey Matter, because Grey matters.

  • Before I realized that my brain had an infinite capacity.
  • Before I learned that I had limited willpower, whenever I was tired, lonely, frustrated, hungry and angry.
  • Before I knew what I know now…..
    • I relied on a sleep aide when over tired
    • Wine to ease my stress
    • Procrastination when I was unsure of myself
    • Felt Anger when under pressure
    • and thought I could rely on my willpower to lose weight.

But now I know.

  • I don’t require the latest diet craze
  • I never needed a sleep aide
  • Stress doesn’t have to be the norm…
  • Why procrastinate when you can just do it! Do it now!

Because now I know how to access my sub-conscious grey matter, my mastermind is my super power!

Twenty years ago I discovered that Grey matters within my sub-conscious mind was a super power. During a near death experience of crashing in a float plane, while I struggled to survive without air, direction or experience, my sub-conscious mind exploded with super natural powers I never knew existed. Through this experience, I became aware of the master within the mind. It was a life altering experience.

I survived to tell the tale of that incredible experience, but I also understood that I didn’t know how to access my mastermind anytime I wanted to. And that knowledge set the course of me having a tremendous desire to learn all about psychology.

I became a Homeopath, studying mind body connections. Probed into different aspects of psychology, but, it wasn’t until I became a N.L.P. trainer and hypnotherapist that I truly realized I had discovered the Holy Grail, the secret of Masterminding Grey Matter.

With Neuro-Linguistics programming I learned to access my subconscious mind, had the ability to read peoples strategies, how their brain processed decision making, how to communicate with anyone and get the information I needed to help them, and to have the ability to make positive changes in my life and the lives of my clients.

Now I know, the mastermind understands that Grey Matter doesn’t really separate reality from fantasy. Each of us has experienced the truth in this. How? Our subconscious mind learns and finds reality through metaphors. Or a story of a friends life experience. Even watching a scary movie. Listen to what your body and mind does. Did your heart rate go up? Hair raise on the back of your neck? Experience fear, happiness, empathy?

When someone gets hurt, even on T.V., do you cringe? Actually say OUCH? Because you could feel their pain?

Ever have your mouth water when you smell an apple pie on a cooking show?

These are simple examples in everyday life. Proving we can experience an emotion, through witnessing it in another person, an actor, animation or an animal. Experiences become real based on our sensory experience. What we see, hear, smell, taste and feel. Our brain believes something is real whether it is real or not.

Now that we are aware of that fact, Neuro-Linguistic Programming uses it to YOUR advantage. Fact!

  1. If someone wants to quit smoking, why not “trick” the brain into thinking they already quit….
  2. If someone wants to be a better athlete, why not experience the strengths and attributes of a star athlete and make it your own?
  3. If someone is not fun, why can we not change our impression of it, and make it fun?
  4. If someone overeats and cannot lose weight, why not mastermind the brain to make a different choice?
  5. What if your job requires one to speak in public and they have a tremendous fear

Fact: Each of these scenarios is possible. Brain science has already proven it. We can Mastermind Grey Matter, easily and naturally, without drugs, diets, stress struggle or pain.

Now Masterminding Grey Matters is readily available. To anyone that is looking for change. These natural scientifically proven methods of accessing the subconscious mind now. Useful for overcoming fear, building confidence, changing behavior, and performance.

learn more at yes@lifecoachadele.com Until we speak in person, discover in yourself when, fantasy feels real.

Communication and Representational Systems

Are you a kinesthetic communicator?

What does that mean? A kinesthetic communicator is one of 5 representational systems that humans use to describe their experiences.

It defines the way someone is processing their world through language. When we understand someone’s representational system, we can communicate better and build rapport. Once we have rapport, one is more likely to have them open up, get cooperation or make a sale. So by listening to the words that one uses in everyday language we can discovery a lot! And why does it matter in any way to you? We communicate everyday all day long. If we can be better it makes life easier all round. Communication and the relationships that either works well or suffer because of communication affects our lives every day, in families, neighbors, between coworkers and in the boardroom. Communication and representational systems cannot be underscored.

What situations can benefit you financially? Pretty much everywhere, because if you can get the right job, interviews, in sales and marketing unconscious communication plays an important role. It’s simply a good tool to have.

Think back to a time where you really felt that you really connected with someone. Why was that? What was it about that person that resonated with you? Possibly they were talking your language!

So how do you discover how to build rapport but understanding the clues in someone’s language? Look at the samples below and it will start to reveal the clues that you can look for. Then listen the next conversation you have today and discover the clues within their language, whether it is visual, auditory, kinesthetic, olfactory or gustatory. And then add the next component, mirror their style. (Watch for my next module!)

So how do you find the clues? Everyone uses a combination of each representational system but one will be more prominent. We would want to use the most prominent one most and the second most utilized send and so on.

When a person is a “visual” speaker, they predominately use “visual” type words.

Here are some examples: A visual person will use visual word to talk about experiences. They may say something like: It’s pretty clear to me that you have a bright future. I’ve been watching you and I can plainly see in my mind eye, that you know where you’re heading. It appears to me, your focus is on the bulls-eye, no tunnel vision there, I think you have a good perspective on things.

If you’re an auditory person, your expressions would be sound a bit like this: I hear ya. I don’t want you to think that I am outspoken, but I have been listening to what you’re saying and I hear your message loud and clear. You seem to go about your business quietly, I hear you talking to your team, you articulate so clearly. It was a really good CALL. Why I am telling you this, to tell you the truth, is that something that you said the other day really rang a bell with me. It seems to harmonize with my personal beliefs, it resonated with me…

If you’re a kinesthetic person, you probably like the outdoors, athletics and have chosen a career where you use your hands, like a carpenter, mechanic or  thinker, you may say. Even when I feel the pressure at work, I handle the stress well. I typically feel pretty relaxed.

Or: Yes I noticed, you’re a smooth operator, even when something slips your mind, when it boils right down to things; you’re sharp as a tack. I noticed when there’s a moment of panic or when things get heated, you just hang in there, pull a few strings and it seems like it all calms down ME.

A Gustatory/olfactory person might say things like. Something spoiled my day today. It was like swallowing a bitter pill, still feeling a little sour. It really stinks when that happens. I need to go for a walk and clear this staleness out of my mind. The fresh air will do me good, get me ready for a fresh start tomorrow.

I think you’re getting the hang of this? (which representational system did I use?)

Here are some to ponder and place into the categories you thing they belong.

Hazy                                  Outspoken                       Grip                     Observe                            Scream

Flash                                  Vista                                CALL                  Pungent                            Mention

Inquire                              Rough                             Clumsy                Delicious                          Perceive

So try it out today, If you want to build rapport quickly, speak someone’s language. Adapt your language accordingly and by doing this they will feel like…  this person really “gets ME”.

 

Watch for mirroring next! And see how your communication skills skyrocket! Or give me a call and get a personal session in building rapport and more about hypnotic conversation…for building success each and every day.